Random feelings

Parents of newly identified deaf and hard of hearing children go through the following standard stages of grief and acceptance:

1.Denial - Some parents may deny the fact their child has a hearing loss. Sometimes this stage manifests itself when parents insist that their child communicate orally or through sign language, when the child may be better suited to a different method of communication or learning.

2.Anxiety - Parents learn things like "the average deaf high school graduate reads at fourth grade level" and worry about their child's future academic abilities and employability. They worry that their child may not be able to communicate with hearing children in the neighborhood and have friends.

3.Depression - Some parents ask themselves, "Why us? why our child?"

4.Anger - Some parents think, "It's not fair! This is not fair to us or to our child! We/our child don't deserve this!"

5.Guilt - Parents may feel that their child's hearing loss is the result of something that they did, or did not do. For example, ear infections when untreated can cause hearing loss - but today doctors must make judgment calls on whether to prescribe antibiotics for ear infections because of the risks of antibiotic overuse.

6.Acceptance - Parents learn about deafness and hearing loss. They become acquainted with others in the deaf/hoh community, and see that their child can have a normal, fulfilling life. It becomes clear that their deaf or hoh child can have a good future as a productive adult regardless of the communication mode that is chosen, or how severe the child's hearing loss is.

It has been 4 years...Please Allah give me strenght to be in stage 6.